By Elliot D. Cohen, Ph.D.
Ross H. Miller, Ph.D., Senior
Editor of Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, has asked if I would write a
memorial to Dr. Albert Ellis, who died on Tuesday at the age of 93. Dr. Miller expressed hope that my memories of
him might be comforting to other travelers of life. It is with sadness, humility, and honor that
I recount a part of my personal history that was deeply touched by this quiet
hero.
This past spring, Rowman published my book, The New Rational Therapy: Thinking Your Way to Serenity, Success, and
Profound Happiness. Albert Ellis
wrote the preface, and my dedication read, “to my friend and mentor, Albert
Ellis, who has supported, taught, and inspired me in countless ways.” These words are meager alongside the magnitude
of this man’s gift to humanity. I am
here speaking of the psychological revolution he started in the 1950’s, which
changed the face of contemporary psychology forever. Standing firm against the currents of the
strongly entrenched Freudian tradition, it was his unique brand of
psychotherapy known as Rational-Emotive Behavior therapy (REBT) that redirected
psychology from a lengthy psychoanalytic process delving into unconscious
motivation arising from past, traumatic experiences to a relatively short-term
therapy focusing on thinking and doing in the here-and-now.
In fact, a survey
conducted by the American Psychological Association ranked Albert Ellis above
Sigmund Freud as the second most influential psychologist in history. Carl
Rogers came in first, and Freud Third.
In memoriam to
Albert Ellis, The New York Times had
the following to say:
"Irreverent,
charismatic, he was called the Lenny Bruce of psychotherapy. In popular Friday
evening seminars that ran for decades, he counseled, prodded, provoked and
entertained groups of 100 or more students, psychologists and others looking
for answers, often lacing his comments with obscenities for effect."
Yet, speaking of Albert Ellis in
these terms fails to capture the depths of humanity behind his stage
presence. What I will always cherish in
this man is his predilection for kindness; his genuineness in caring for the
plights of others, the manner in which he resonated emotionally with others
during their hardest times. What the New
York Times failed to mention (among other things) was that the book he was
working on (and unfortunately never completed) before his death was a book on
the emotion of love.
I
came to know Albert Ellis during a difficult time in my life after my father’s
death. My father had suffered a lethal heart
attack at the age of 60. At the moment
of his heart attack, the phone failed to work (due to a phone line that was not
operational). My mother had to run next
door to call 911. By the time the paramedics
arrived, my father had passed.
I
was 28 at the time, nearing the end of a one-year, post-doctoral fellowship,
and I was confronting a very bleak job market in the field of academic
philosophy. Yet I continued to work,
publish, and eventually found a permanent job in academia. Emotionally I was numb. Having never stopped to grieve, I had not
given myself an opportunity to curse the universe, damn the phone company, and
unleash the fury that simmered inside me. I was functionally robotic for about seven
years.
After
my father’s death, I began to formulate an approach to behavioral and emotional
problems that used logic and philosophy to correct irrational thinking (a form
of REBT now known as Logic-Based Therapy). At the time, I was unaware of the
work of Albert Ellis, which antedated my own by about three decades. At the prompting of my wife, Gale S. Cohen, a
mental health counselor, I began to study Ellis’ theory. Its keynote was the
Stoic principle that it isn’t the events in our lives that upset us, but rather
the irrational ideas we generate about these events.
Albert
Ellis had systematically cataloged the same irrational ideas I was using to
disturb myself. As a philosopher, I was
trained to think rationally and logically, and ironically it was my demand to think rationally that kept me
in a state of emotional turmoil. Dr. Ellis
taught that people primarily cause their own emotional and behavioral disturbances
by demanding perfection in a universe
that is far less than perfect. In
refusing to recognize that philosophers too are fallible, irrational creatures,
I prevented myself from working through my anger.
However, once I
gave myself permission to be human, I became angry at the universe. I damned
the universe over the death of my father, and demanded that such awful things
never happen, at least to me. Once I had
given myself the opportunity to vent these irrational beliefs, I was in a
position to expose and work them through. In this way, utilizing the cognitive behavioral tools of REBT, I was
able to rescue myself from the abyss of unhappiness.
I first met Albert
Ellis about two decades ago when I enrolled in his REBT certification program
and trained under him. Remarkably
prolific, having written over eighty books, he was always there to inspire me
in my work, read and offer commentary on what I had written, and to promptly answer
my queries. He was both mentor and
friend. After the death of my father,
when I was confused and uncertain about my future, Albert Ellis was there for
me as he was for the millions of people who have profited from his incredibly
effective self-help books.
In 1959, Dr.
Ellis founded the Albert Ellis Institute in Manhattan to advance his theory of REBT. He lived frugally upstairs from the Institute,
took a salary of $12,000 per year, donated most of his book royalties to the
Institute, and even purchased the building on its behalf. It is therefore sadly ironic that, in 2005,
some of the individuals he had mentored and brought to the Institute cancelled his
celebrated Friday Night Workshops and ousted him from the Board. However, Dr. Ellis filed suit against the
Institute and, in 2006, the New York Supreme Court reinstated him. The Court
argued that the alleged reasons for removing him from the board without notice were
“disingenuous."
This past spring, I visited him as he lay ill,
in a weakened condition in a New York nursing facility, with his devoted wife, Debbie Ellis, by his side. I held his hand, he looked into my eyes, and
eventually he fell asleep holding my hand.
For me, the world now
has an indelibly empty place without him; yet it is so much the better for his
having been in it. I mourn his death,
but not in the same way I mourned the death of my father. I know well what he would tell me about such destructive,
self-defeating ideation. And his legacy lives on. Albert Ellis didn’t leave biological children,
but he has nurtured disciples who have formed an REBT Network dedicated to carrying on
his life’s work.
The New York Times compared him to Lenny Bruce. But there is another comparison that better captures the essense of this incredibly kind man. In 2004, in the off Broadway play, Trumbo, starring Paul Newman, Albert Ellis was heralded as "the greatest humanitarian since Gandhi." This is just how he deserves to be remembered.
Elliot D. Cohen, Ph.D., is executive co-director and co-founder of the American Society for Philosophy, Counseling, and Psychotherapy; professor and chair at the Indian River College; editor-in-chief and founder of The International Journal of Applied Philosophy and The International Journal of Philosophical Practice.
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